You go out to dinner, to the movies, or to the mall, and when you glance at another person your date starts seething. How should you handle a jealous date? Remember, jealousy is often about insecurity. Perhaps your glance did linger a bit too long on the attractive person at the next table, or maybe you did smile flirtatiously at your restaurant server. If your date's display of jealousy is a one-time event, soothe the hurt feelings with a reminder that you find them the most attractive person in the room. Some folks, however, seem to live in a constant state of jealousy. Every move you make is scrutinized, and if it's deemed inappropriate, the jealous partner may react with rage and fury. Whether their jealousy stems from your behavior or their own personal insecurities, you may need to evaluate the relationship again. Living with a jealous person can be emotionally draining and exhausting. You must offer constant reassurance, as well as be forever vigilante of possible jealousy-inducing situations. Some folks feel that they must constantly avert their eyes from members of the opposite sex, lest they feel their partner's wrath. If your partner's jealousy is significantly affecting your life, you may need to reconsider your relationship. Try talking with your partner about your concerns. If nothing changes, it may be time to move on. And, as always, if your partner's jealousy leads to any type of emotional abuse or physical violence, leave the relationship immediately. |
